December 25, 2016

The Right Connections

It is with a heavy heart which I write this post. The heaviest heart I've ever written with. So much has happened during this year, so much which shouldn't have happened. Through misery, pain, heartbreak, abuse, death, decay and failure, I can finally write this post with only one goal in mind: To point to Jesus.

There is only one constant in our lives. It is not the love we have for a spouse or significant other, wealth, possessions or social status. It is the Love of Jesus. It is only through this love where anything can truly be accomplished.

So I pray, that His Love will guide me, and help me write this decidedly difficult topic. On Christmas Day 2016, this post will go up. Thousands of families will sit down around a dinner table to celebrate Christmas. Celebrating a year with a family, be it a figurative family of friends, or a literal family through blood.

Both are connections we form during our entire lives. We are all born with a family we can't chose, and we are given a family of friends through the choices we make during our formative years, adulthood, and so on.

At a certain stage in our lives, we are concerned with popularity. It doesn't matter which connections we make, so long as we have them. We associate with all kinds of people, be they good, bad, or somewhere in the middle. While this stage may present a certain joy, over times we'll find connections decaying, bringing us pain through their loss.

To protect ourselves against this loss, we form connections more guardedly, discriminating socially to avoid pain. We desire acceptance more than anything, and will do whatever it takes to get it.

This is unfortunately where a lot of us make huge mistakes, associating with people who influence us negatively, all in the name of feeling "loved". Fearing the loss of such alleged love, we compromise, cutting blocks lying in the path of acceptance by our peers. And so we form connections which damage us, making us fall away from the One True Saviour. 

He should be our first and our last connection. There is only one absolutely perfect relationship, and that is the one we have with our Messiah. He loves us, from now and to eternity and will never allow us to ever be seperated from His love, once we've accepted the sacrifice He so graciously gave us on the Cross of Calvary.

Once we start to walk a path with Him, He will clean us from all the weeds in our lives which threaten to consume and destroy us. Doing so, however, requires sacrifice from us. The wrong connections, the people, things or ways of living which lead us into sin, will have to be cut off entirely. Sadly, this means letting go of a great many people. Lovers, friends, associates and even family. What evidence do I have of this? This verse in the Book of Matthew:
Matthew 10:34-39

34 Do not assume that I have come to bring peace to the earth; I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. 35 For I have come to turn A man against his father, a daughter against her mother, a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. 36 A man’s enemies will be the members of his own household. 37 Anyone who loves his father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me; anyone who loves his son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me; 38 and anyone who does not take up his cross and follow Me is not worthy of Me. 39 Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for My sake will find it.

The wording makes it very clear. We have cut loose our families if they lead us away from Jesus. This doesn't mean we should disown our families if they make mistakes, obviously, but Jesus makes it clear that we should not hold onto to our earthly family when He calls us to let go of them for His gospel. 

There is only one conduit through which we can form the right connections, and that's through Jesus. I'm asking all of us to take a deeply introspective look and ask ourselves, who or what is pulling us away from Him, and how to cut off those yokes.

Abuse is a very serious bondage, and one God doesn't want us to live in. Yes, we are to obey our parents and elders, but they are also to respect and honour us. Searching the Bible will show us this fact time and time again.

Read the Word of God. Forget what people are saying. Let the Holy Spirit clear you of all interpretations and read the word merely as it is written. It is only a book, a letter which can kill, but the Spirit giveth life. (It's almost an exact quote. Once again, read the Bible. Find these verses I'm referencing. Test these words. Above all, find Jesus.)

It's time for us to let go of the old man, and walk into a new creation with Jesus. Let go of them, the people who are abusing you in any way, influencing you away from Jesus, and connect with those who build you up in Him. Find a loving a church. Have fellowship. Build on each other. Not by earthly strength but by allowing Christ to work through all of you.

Let Him connect you with the right people. The friendships you form through Him far exceed what the world could ever provide.

I know this has been a very scatterbrain post, but I hope the message comes through loud and clear. I'm Kyle signing out. Hope you all have a wonderful Christmas day for those celebrating. If you're not (like me), have a wonderful day and never stop seeking Jesus. 

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